CW: Mental Health, Suicide Ideation, Substance Use In this episode based on the book chapter called PRETEND, I invite Rayner Tan to join me in a conversation about imposter syndrome, identity and youth mental health. "When I was thinking of who I would love to have a conversation with on this shade of love on our public and personal identities, and how our gender shapes the way we view the world, a dear friend came to mind, Rayner Tan. I first met Rayner at a public health seminar where we were both speaking, and I was very taken to the way he introduced himself to the audience as a gay man. He’s the only man I know so far who has 4 cats, ran his own pastry cafe, now still a partner of Patisserie G and also a full time researcher in the Saw See Hock School for Public Health at NUS." Join us for an exploration on identity, impostor syndrome, youth mental health and self-worth. I come clean about pretending to have a boyfriend in my teenage years because of my defects and discrimination whilst Rayner shares about how he also dealt with feeling like an imposter as a Chinese gay man and how that affected his notions of self-worth. Also, come find out why the Chinese Banyan is paired with this shade of love in the book! MY INVITATION TO YOU: How do you value yourself? How does your gender and sexual orientation determine the way you view the world? RESOURCES: (For substance use and recovery support) The Green House https://thegreenhouse.sg/ (For LGBTQ+ counselling) Ooga Chaga https://oogachaga.com/ / Sayoni https://www.sayoni.com/ / T-project https://www.thetprojectsg.org/ CHAT https://www.chat.mentalhealth.sg/mobile/about-chat/
